Bright Lights And Dark Shadows

You can’t always be positive. In reality if you were positive all of the time, how could people really believe in the authenticity of your character? They couldn’t.

Life is wonderfully balanced. In order to be truly positive you have to experience substantial negatives as well. That’s simply the way that the world works. As Carl Jung once said, “The brighter the light the darker the shadow.” I think that really applies here as well.

In my life, I try and keep my writing pretty positive and optimistic because I truly am out in this world to help people love profoundly and maybe, just maybe, something I talk about will help someone bring some light into their heart. For years I’ve been ready to pull a lesson or learning point out of even the worst eventualities to help inspire others. But what I would like to share with you is that I am not constantly positive. In fact, I don’t ever force myself to be because that only creates inauthenticity.

I have really dark moments and days at certain times. In reality the more and more I love with everything I have, the more deeply I feel agony, hurt, loss, and everything else that may make your hands shake when it comes round. I feel those things now more than I ever have in the past. The melting of a cold heart all those years back has exposed it to be bare, uncovered, and gives it the opportunity to feel everything intensely.

So often, writing something that’s upbeat, is really me fighting as firmly as I can to keep a positive perspective on life. In reality, some days are way harder than others. Some days, I feel like I can hardly breath.

Throughout the years, I’ve learnt to express these things through my art and pour myself out through my writing and I am so fortunate to have that. So if you’re struggling, just know, I struggle just as much.

I struggle hard. And with all that, I love hard.

Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Going through a rough patch in life? I put together some quotes about death to help you if you are suffering through the loss of a loved one.

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How We Can Take Anxiety For A Ride

Have you ever listened to someone define anxiety in just such a way that would modify it fully?

I’ll never forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everybody, “Now a lot of things are about to change in your life, and this can bring up some anxiety, but just think about anxiety as new things happening. “


New things occuring? I have never thought of it like that before. When we really get down to define anxiety in a very strict sense, it’s a honest feeling of worry or nervous tension about a situation that truly has a little bit of doubt surrounding it. What could actually happen next? What will the outcome be? In a way, anxiety is a fantastic indicator of forward thinking or “row boat thinking,” a phrase I have recently coined.

What is the thought behind “row boat thinking?”

Each one of us are supplied with a very interesting narrative through our lives that sounds a lot like this…”I’ll be ecstatic when this occurs. It’ll all turn out when I arrive there. ” The issue is, we are rowing to this island that actually does not exist. We think it’s there, but it’s one of the most beautifully created mirages we have ever seen. It’s sexy. It’s captivating. It is simply enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there’s real danger in this kind of thinking meanging that deep anxiety can be our best indicator that we are actually caught in the process of doing it in the first place.

Living in the future can have as many negative side effects as living in the past. We all know what it is actually like to want to escape our past, but I’m going to say that we must avoid living in the future just as much. We will be able to get stuck in a spot, an especially uncertain place, that honestly is out of our control. Should you set goals and have a vision for what you want out of your life? Positively. But the danger is building the bedrock of your true happiness on such a place.

The one guarantee I'm able to make you about this life is that it’ll change. You cannot go to the past, the present is changeable at any moment and the future is to be determined.

So what are we actually able to do?

That uncertainty…love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The doubtful places in your life are chances to have nothing short than magic occur. Do you actually know what is going to pop up? Naturally not. Will you try to project as much as possible? Yes, we’ve all done that haven’t we? But when you start returning to the present time, over and over again because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to totally be here. Here really is a excellent spot to be. Start basically seeing what is happening around you rather than hiding and spending too much time distracting yourself from everything that's not here and now.

So all stress actually is, when it boils down to it, is new things going down. Like that feeling and sit with it. Actually take a little time to actually feel the anxiety in your gut and then take a minute to start to understand why it’s coming up. “In this moment, what is the thing that’s happening right now that’s new?” When you begin to do that, well, things become more fun. But when you stop living in the future , the anxiety starts to disappear altogether.

It is all about how we define anxiety in the first instance.

Evan Sanders is the author and creator of The Words Of Encouragement a website dedicated to bringing encouraging words to all those who are in need of some help, whether that ranges from helping people define anxiety to providing them with strong powerful quotes about life so they can continue to chase their dreams.

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